Living with an alcoholic is by no means what girls dream of when they fantasize about their wedding day. It’s hard to imagine someone voluntarily wanting to live “forever happily” with an alcohol addict, endure their aggression or complaints about life, clean up afterwards, take care of it, feel disgust and shame for their behavior to neighbors, colleagues, friends and friends. relatives. Not surprisingly, an alcoholic’s marriage will fall apart if nothing can make him or her crave to drink. Nevertheless, there are brave women who fight for their families to the very end, applying various measures to the drunk with the same goal - so that the husband does not drink to deter him from ruining his life with addiction (both his own and his relatives). for intoxicating drinks.
Constructive dialogue
The first thing to try is to persuade. If the urge to drink is associated with problems outside the family — work, career, friends, and if alcoholism hasn’t gone too far, it can easily stop after meeting the support of relatives.
A constructive dialogue should only be initiated after careful preparation and compliance with certain rules:
- cannot talk to a person until he or she returns to a proper state and is able to understand reasonable arguments;
- One should not try to convince the alcoholic while experiencing the “pleasures” of a hangover;
- it is undesirable to cause pity or, on the contrary, to settle scandals for a drinking man (even in a sober state), most often attention is needed;
- may threaten a drunk, but it is important to be prepared to carry out that threat;
- Before starting a conversation, it is advisable to seek the advice of a narcologist so that the alcoholic, if he or she has such a desire, can go to the clinic for treatment immediately.
If the wife manages to prove to the drinking husband that she needs help, she needs to make sure she is at least trying to change her life, then this man will have a chance. Creating a so-called “motivational list” can also help with this. You can work together to figure out a number of reasons why getting rid of alcoholism will not only be simple but also beneficial. For example:
- to win the respect of his children;
- to save money on a big purchase or vacation for a month;
- start something new instead of drunkenness or start building a career.
Each person's cause can be unique. You can motivate for the sake of a hobby, such as playing sports or fiddling with a car in the garage, the point is to spend all your free time on it and not drink, not be in bad company. You may need the help of a psychotherapist.
If the persuasion remains unanswered
Conversations, beliefs, supplications - in most cases this is not enough to awaken conscience.
It is very rare to prove to a drinker that his lifestyle is destructive because even if he believes in it, his own strength is not enough to fight alcohol addiction. Instead, the best remedy is traditional medicine and folk remedies.
Industrial pharmacological drugs are designed to reject alcohol in an alcoholic person and may be averse to drinking, its appearance, taste, and smell. It is enough to mix a similar drug with an alcoholic, add it to food or drink, and if you also drank vodka or even beer, you will immediately feel unwell. Drugs with this effect contain an active ingredient (or disulfiram or cyanamide) that disrupts the normal process of ethyl alcohol processing, provokes the accumulation of metabolic products in the blood, and as a result is a lasting symptom of poisoning and a hangover. And one who has fallen ill at least once after alcohol poisoning is averse to alcohol for a long time. If you add a similar drug (Esperal tablets, Kolme drops, and their analogues) to a drunk, you may think twice before taking another dose of alcohol.
Once the drugs start working, another attempt can be made to convince the alcoholic to take the treatment by explaining the benefits of treatment at the drug treatment clinic:
- continuous monitoring of health status;
- psychological support, especially important in relapse prevention;
- Qualified assistance in the repair of internal organs damaged by ethyl alcohol abuse.
Hospital treatment under the supervision of a narcologist is the best anti-alcohol therapy with virtually no failure.
Alternative medicine against alcohol consumption is even more ingenious in how patients can be stopped. Folk methods suggest the preparation of decoctions and infusions that act like official medicines, they talk about completely original remedies:
- green bugs - you can throw 4 bugs into a glass of alcohol to cause an unpleasant odor and taste, and thus be averse to the alcohol itself;
- pepper - can persuade a person to stop drinking with a tincture (3 drops per 1 liter of alcohol) made from hot red pepper (crushed, 20 gr. ), filled with alcohol (500 ml) and infused for two weeks;
- birch smoke - you can ask to inhale over smoked birch logs and then offer alcohol, after which you strongly reject alcoholic products.
It is important to understand that treatment without the supervision of a specialist, even with traditional, albeit folk, methods, must be carried out with extreme caution, otherwise a person not only has aversion and a desire to drink, but also has serious health problems.
The last stage of the fight
If all methods of struggle are exhausted, there is only one last option: threatening your husband with separation if you do not stop drinking. However, it is important for a drunk wife:
- is ready to execute the threat without multiple warnings (1-2 times will suffice);
- to leave her husband seriously, not to arouse pity and forgive;
- not to believe promises, vows, and tears;
- Start working hard and fast - if the house belongs to the husband of the drinker, you will have to take things out in your absence and leave with the kids for a while;
- Only return to the drunk if you can prove you have been treated.
You should not return to your alcoholic husband unless your departure and return situation first arises: sooner or later you will understand that your wife cannot leave, no matter how drunk you are.
To get rid of alcohol in the house, not to allow drinking to take up a significant place on the holiday to “drive away” unreliable friends from the house. . . . All of this is much easier to do than later “poisoning” your spouse with devices that provoke disgust for ethyl alcohol. The positive example is a good reason to mention that no one in the family should drink.